I'm 29 and Feeling Fine!

In life we encounter hardships and distress that we will not be able to change; we have to allow it to change us. Until you're broken, you don't know what you're made of. It gives you the ability to rebuild yourself all over again and stronger than ever.

It's amazing how fast time flies by. It's been 13 years since we unexpectedly lost my Dad on my birthday and the hardest part for me wasn't not being able to say goodbye, but learning to live without him. Trying to fill the void and emptiness that's left inside of you and pretending to be okay was my biggest challenge throughout the grieving process. Smiling was always easier than explaining why I was sad. Why do so many of us pretend to be fine when we are hurting? Why do we think our tears represent weakness? Why do we feel ashamed of our pain? In the past 13 years, I have learned so much about myself. I have also learned so much from losing a parent.

As I celebrate the last birthday in my 20's and honor my Dad's memory, I reflected on 29 things I've learned:

  1. It's okay not to be okay

  2. No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted

  3. The difference between happy people and unhappy people is their level of gratitude

  4. You don't know everything

  5. Life isn't always fair, but it is good

  6. It's okay to say no. No matter how hard you try, you simply can't do everything

  7. Smile more, worry less

  8. Friendships change over time and that's okay

  9. Collect moments with the ones you love, not things

  10. You might not have everything figured out and that's okay

  11. Stop complaining over the things you can't control - let it go and embrace change

  12. Actions speak louder than words

  13. What doesn't kill you really does make you stronger

  14. Strive for progress not perfection

  15. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.

  16. Eliminate the toxins in your life

  17. Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you

  18. Invest in yourself and follow your passions

  19. Nothing will work unless you do

  20. Great things never come from comfort zones

  21. If it doesn't challenge you, it won't change you

  22. Stop comparing yourself to others, it's not a competition

  23. Be yourself unapologetically, you are enough

  24. Self-love is not a byproduct of weight loss

  25. It's not selfish to take care of yourself

  26. "We accept the love we think we deserve"

  27. "Eat food, not too much, mostly plants"

  28. Health is a journey, not a destination

  29. There's no rule book or time frame for grief. It never ends, but it changes. It is not a sign of weakness, but the price of love

I love and miss you everyday, Dad! It took me a while to get here, but I can truly say that I'm thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn't have stumbled across my strength. I have found self-love, I am the best version of myself, and I strive to be better than I was yesterday. At 29, I am in the best shape of my life both mentally and physically. I love my body and embrace my flaws. I do my best to make healthy positive choices to nourish my soul. When I exercise it's a celebration of what my body can do, not a punishment for what I ate. I have an amazing and supportive family, the world's greatest mom, best friends who are my sisters, and a loving, patient, and caring boyfriend who is my other half. I travel the world. I built a career I am passionate about and I get to make a positive impact. Happiness is the greatest form of success and I have so many reasons to be happy. So cheers to 29 and feeling fine! Life is a gift and I won't forget to enjoy and bask in every moment I'm in.

Stay Balanced xo,


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